Milly Lai, 柯翠蓮
taken at 日本九州大分県別府市、2008-02-09
- 生誕：
- 1950-09-25 ??:?? - 2024-03-09 14:05, 享年 74歳
- 死因：
- 2023-07-08 膵臓癌、Stage(ステージ) IV 発見, 237日の健闘した後
- 配偶：
- 頼宗佑、1948-10-15 ??:?? -
- 結婚： - 1973-10-22, 死の当時 金婚+One
- 子女：
- 頼修慧 ( Frances Lai, 長女： 1974-09-28)
- 頼修皓 ( Betty Lai, 次女: 1979-11-20 14:92?? ), 適 Thomas Henry
- 頼美旭 ( Kelly Lai, 三女: 1990-10-22 16:00 )
- 子孫：
- Mark and Vivian
2023-07-10 17:30, I was with Lawrence on my way back to Taichung from a sail trip over 大鵬湾の外海, and I got a call from Milly. I could not hear her clearly and did not fully comprehend what she said. Lawrence heard my speaking to Milly and alerted me that my wife said she was "diagnosed by 中国医薬学院 with Pancreas tumor(膵臓腫瘍)". And suddenly, I realized how serious the problem was! And here goes our 237 days fighting with this notorious disease.
We immediately checked into 台大医院 from 2023-07-12 to 2023-07-22 for a more comprehensive checkup. It was reconfirmed that 膵臓癌 was at stage IV, and an operation was out of the question.
The immediate therapy available was 化療法（chemotherapy）。The first shot was injected on 2023-08-07. We also chose CIK 細胞療法 and the preparation were from 2023-07-23 to 2023-08-04.
From 2023-09-24 to 2023-12-05, we also had 重粒子治療法 at 臺北栄総。The whole 重粒子治療 was done and considered a success for 切除(pulverizing) of the 膵臓. Everybody, including Milly, relaxed a little bit, and all my daughters had already used up their vacation days and started to head back to their work place.
Milly had the first shot of CIK 細胞療法 on 2024-12-14. Milly could not stand 化療法 any more, and I was hoping that after 重粒子治療, we could think that the 膵臓 was successfully removed, and CIK could be an additional solution. So I accepted Milly's decision to stop 化療 injection and only take oral medications.
On 2024-01-17, Milly's CA19-9 reported at 3372.1, which meant that the 膵臓癌 was still very active, and we lost control of it. Please note that CA19-9 was at 2709 on 2023-07-24 (when initially diagnosed as a 膵臓癌 patient), was 436 on 2023-09-28 (during 化療), and 350 on 2023-12-12 (after 重粒子 and before CIK).
On 2023-01-22, the 化療主治医 transfered us to 家庭医’s care. Even though he did not say anything, I believed that was the start of Hospice Care.
In her final days from 2024-02-01 to 2023-03-09 at the hospice, Milly received morphine and some other tranquilizers to soothe her pain. She cycled through various stages of drowsiness, agitation, and sleep. From what I could tell, most of the time she was comfortable and relaxed. And finally on 2024-03-09 at 14:05, she left us after she knew Kelly was back again by her bedside. She chose this time to leave us behind.
最後、秋山ちえ子さんはそう言っていました、 「運命は人間には計り知れない。寿命は生まれた時から決まっていると思った」（Fate is unpredictable. Lifespan was fixed from the moment we were born."）
Thanks everybody! May Milly, her parents, my parents, and all our past relatives be happily together in so called Heaven!!
Your beloved Husband
頼宗佑 with tears
2024-03-10 20:00